ScriptureDepth's study of 2 Samuel 3
“Abner had communication with the elders of Israel, saying, “In times past, you sought for David to be king over you. Now then do it; for Yahweh has spoken of David, saying, ‘By the hand of my servant David, I will save my people Israel out of the hand of the Philistines, and out of the hand of all their enemies.’”
2 Samuel 3:17-18
Abner speaks to the elders of Israel about their past desire for David to be king, setting in motion their decision to support David's rule over all Israel.
What 2 Samuel 3 is about
There was a long war between Saul’s house and David’s house. David grew stronger, while Saul’s house weakened (vv. 1-6). Ishbosheth confronted Abner about going into Saul's concubine, which made Abner angry. He declared his intent to support David and transfer the kingdom (vv. 7-11). Abner sent messages to David, offering to unite Israel under him. David agreed but required him to bring Michal back (vv. 12-21). When Joab returned and learned of Abner's visit, he was suspicious and sent for Abner. Joab then killed Abner in revenge for Asahel's death (vv. 22-27). David claimed innocence and mourned for Abner, condemning Joab's actions (vv. 28-30). David led the people in mourning. He emphasized the loss of a great man and expressed his own weakness as king (vv. 31-39).
The chapter leaves the reader with David's acknowledgment of his own weakness and the ongoing conflict within Israel.
2 Samuel 3 at a glance
- 2 Samuel 3:1–6The Conflict Between Houses
- 2 Samuel 3:7–11Abner's Anger and Intentions
- 2 Samuel 3:12–21Abner and David's Alliance
- 2 Samuel 3:22–27Joab's Return and Treachery
- 2 Samuel 3:28–30David's Innocence
- 2 Samuel 3:31–39David's Lament and Leadership
Key verse: 2 Samuel 3:17-18
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The Conflict Between Houses 2 Samuel 3:1–6
1Verse 1. Now there was long war between Saul’s house and David’s house. David grew stronger and stronger, but Saul’s house grew weaker and weaker. 2Verse 2. Sons were born to David in Hebron. His firstborn was Amnon, of Ahinoam the Jezreelitess; 3Verse 3. and his second, Chileab, of Abigail the wife of Nabal the Carmelite; and the third, Absalom the son of Maacah the daughter of Talmai king of Geshur; 4Verse 4. and the fourth, Adonijah the son of Haggith; and the fifth, Shephatiah the son of Abital; 5Verse 5. and the sixth, Ithream, of Eglah, David’s wife. These were born to David in Hebron. 6Verse 6. While there was war between Saul’s house and David’s house, Abner made himself strong in Saul’s house.
Abner's Anger and Intentions 2 Samuel 3:7–11
7Verse 7. Now Saul had a concubine, whose name was Rizpah, the daughter of Aiah; and Ishbosheth said to Abner, “Why have you gone in to my father’s concubine?” 8Verse 8. Then Abner was very angry about Ishbosheth’s words, and said, “Am I a dog’s head that belongs to Judah? Today I show kindness to Saul’s house your father, to his brothers, and to his friends, and have not delivered you into the hand of David; and yet you charge me today with a fault concerning this woman! 9Verse 9. God do so to Abner, and more also, if, as Yahweh has sworn to David, I don’t do even so to him;
10Verse 10. to transfer the kingdom from Saul’s house, and to set up David’s throne over Israel and over Judah, from Dan even to Beersheba.” 11Verse 11. He could not answer Abner another word, because he was afraid of him.
Abner and David's Alliance 2 Samuel 3:12–21
12Verse 12. Abner sent messengers to David on his behalf, saying, “Whose is the land?” and saying, “Make your alliance with me, and behold, my hand will be with you, to bring all Israel around to you.” 13Verse 13. He said, “Good. I will make a treaty with you, but one thing I require of you. That is, you will not see my face unless you first bring Michal, Saul’s daughter, when you come to see my face.” 14Verse 14. David sent messengers to Ishbosheth, Saul’s son, saying, “Deliver me my wife Michal, whom I was given to marry for one hundred foreskins of the Philistines.”
15Verse 15. Ishbosheth sent and took her from her husband, even from Paltiel the son of Laish. 16Verse 16. Her husband went with her, weeping as he went, and followed her to Bahurim. Then Abner said to him, “Go! Return!” and he returned. 17Verse 17. Abner had communication with the elders of Israel, saying, “In times past, you sought for David to be king over you. 18Verse 18. Now then do it; for Yahweh has spoken of David, saying, ‘By the hand of my servant David, I will save my people Israel out of the hand of the Philistines, and out of the hand of all their enemies.’”
19Verse 19. Abner also spoke in the ears of Benjamin: and Abner went also to speak in the ears of David in Hebron all that seemed good to Israel, and to the whole house of Benjamin. 20Verse 20. So Abner came to David to Hebron, and twenty men with him. David made Abner and the men who were with him a feast. 21Verse 21. Abner said to David, “I will arise and go, and will gather all Israel to my lord the king, that they may make a covenant with you, and that you may reign over all that your soul desires.” David sent Abner away; and he went in peace.
Joab's Return and Treachery 2 Samuel 3:22–27
22Verse 22. Behold, David’s servants and Joab came from a raid, and brought in a great plunder with them; but Abner was not with David in Hebron; for he had sent him away, and he had gone in peace. 23Verse 23. When Joab and all the army who was with him had come, they told Joab, “Abner the son of Ner came to the king, and he has sent him away, and he has gone in peace.” 24Verse 24. Then Joab came to the king, and said, “What have you done? Behold, Abner came to you. Why is it that you have sent him away, and he is already gone?
25Verse 25. You know Abner the son of Ner. He came to deceive you, and to know your going out and your coming in, and to know all that you do.” 26Verse 26. When Joab had come out from David, he sent messengers after Abner, and they brought him back from the well of Sirah; but David didn’t know it. 27Verse 27. When Abner was returned to Hebron, Joab took him aside into the middle of the gate to speak with him quietly, and struck him there in the body, so that he died, for the blood of Asahel his brother.
David's Innocence 2 Samuel 3:28–30
28Verse 28. Afterward, when David heard it, he said, “I and my kingdom are guiltless before Yahweh forever of the blood of Abner the son of Ner. 29Verse 29. Let it fall on the head of Joab, and on all his father’s house. Let there not fail from the house of Joab one who has an issue, or who is a leper, or who leans on a staff, or who falls by the sword, or who lacks bread.” 30Verse 30. So Joab and Abishai his brother killed Abner, because he had killed their brother Asahel at Gibeon in the battle.
David's Lament and Leadership 2 Samuel 3:31–39
31Verse 31. David said to Joab, and to all the people who were with him, “Tear your clothes, and clothe yourselves with sackcloth, and mourn in front of Abner.” King David followed the bier. 32Verse 32. They buried Abner in Hebron; and the king lifted up his voice, and wept at Abner’s grave; and all the people wept. 33Verse 33. The king lamented for Abner, and said, “Should Abner die as a fool dies? 34Verse 34. Your hands weren’t bound, and your feet weren’t put into fetters. As a man falls before the children of iniquity, so you fell.” All the people wept again over him. 35Verse 35. All the people came to urge David to eat bread while it was yet day; but David swore, saying, “God do so to me, and more also, if I taste bread, or anything else, until the sun goes down.”
36Verse 36. All the people took notice of it, and it pleased them; as whatever the king did pleased all the people. 37Verse 37. So all the people and all Israel understood that day that it was not of the king to kill Abner the son of Ner. 38Verse 38. The king said to his servants, “Don’t you know that there a prince and a great man has fallen today in Israel? 39Verse 39. I am weak today, though anointed king. These men, the sons of Zeruiah are too hard for me. May Yahweh reward the evildoer according to his wickedness.”
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Main themes in 2 Samuel 3
Loyalty and Betrayal
The tension of loyalty and betrayal unfolds when Ishbosheth confronts Abner about taking his father's concubine, which ignites Abner's anger in v. 7. He feels betrayed despite his loyalty to Saul's house, declaring, 'Am I a dog’s head that belongs to Judah?' (v. 8). This theme continues with Joab’s treachery against Abner, revealing personal loyalties that conflict with political alliances.
Divine Sovereignty
Divine sovereignty is present as Abner acknowledges God's promise to David in v. 18, stating, 'Yahweh has spoken of David, saying, 'By the hand of my servant David, I will save my people Israel.' This acknowledgment of God's plan sets the stage for the shifting power dynamics. Abner’s efforts to unite Israel under David's rule show a human response to divine direction.
Conflict and Reconciliation
Conflict arises between the houses of Saul and David, marked by a prolonged war in v. 1. Abner seeks reconciliation with David, proposing an alliance and asserting, 'Make your alliance with me' (v. 12). Despite Joab’s violent interference, David's response to Abner's death in vv. 31-39, including his public mourning, illustrates his desire for peace and unity, contrasting with the ongoing conflict.
Moral Complexity in Leadership
The moral complexities of leadership surface in David's response to Joab's actions in v. 28, where he claims innocence regarding Abner's death. He acknowledges the 'sons of Zeruiah' as 'too hard for me' (v. 39), indicating the challenges he faces in controlling his own men. This chapter explores the difficult decisions leaders must navigate amidst personal loyalties and the imperatives of justice.
Chapter outline
How 2 Samuel 3 unfolds
2 Samuel 3:1–6 The Conflict Between Houses
The conflict between Saul’s house and David’s house intensifies, with David's strength increasing while Saul’s house grows weaker (vv. 1-2). David’s sons are listed, establishing his lineage in Hebron (vv. 3-5).
2 Samuel 3:7–11 Abner's Anger and Intentions
Ishbosheth confronts Abner about 'my father’s concubine,' provoking Abner's anger as he asserts his loyalty, declaring his intent to transfer the kingdom to David, which leaves Ishbosheth fearful (vv. 7-9).
2 Samuel 3:12–21 Abner and David's Alliance
Abner proposes an alliance with David, stating 'Make your alliance with me,' and David agrees, demanding the return of Michal, which leads to her being taken from Paltiel and Abner communicating with the elders of Israel (vv. 12-21).
2 Samuel 3:22–27 Joab's Return and Treachery
Joab returns from battle, learns of Abner’s peace with David, and suspects treachery, believing Abner aims to gather intelligence against David (vv. 22-25). He deceives David and kills Abner (vv. 26-27).
2 Samuel 3:28–30 David's Innocence
Upon learning of Abner’s death, David claims 'I and my kingdom are guiltless' regarding Abner's blood, placing blame on Joab and his family while recounting Joab's actions against Abner (vv. 28-30).
2 Samuel 3:31–39 David's Lament and Leadership
David mourns Abner and commands a public display of grief, asserting his leadership to the people (vv. 31-33). The people recognize David’s innocence in the matter, reaffirming his position as king (vv. 36-37).
Key verses
2 Samuel 3:17-18Abner speaks to the elders of Israel about their past desire for David to be king, setting in motion their decision to support David's rule over all Israel.
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Study questions
Questions for studying 2 Samuel 3
- observeIn v7, what does Ishbosheth accuse Abner of regarding Saul's concubine?
- observeIn v20, what honor does David show Abner when he arrives in Hebron?
- interpretAbner's actions in vv. 12-13: why does David require Michal's presence as a condition for alliance?
- interpretJoab's response in v25: what motivations might he have for doubting Abner's intentions?
- applyWhen has a situation like Joab's led you to act out of personal loyalty?
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Cross-references
Passages that echo 2 Samuel 3
- 1 Kings 22 Samuel 3:27 and 1 Kings 2:5Both recount Joab's violence: 2 Samuel 3:27 Joab killed Abner, while 1 Kings 2:5 describes Joab's actions against Abner.
- 2 Samuel 22 Samuel 3:1 and 2 Samuel 2:17Both describe conflict between factions: 2 Samuel 3:1 shows long war, while 2 Samuel 2:17 shows Abner defeated.
- 2 Samuel 162 Samuel 3:16 and 2 Samuel 16:5Both mention weeping: 2 Samuel 3:16 is Abner's wife weeping, while 2 Samuel 16:5 is Shimei cursing.
- 2 Samuel 12 Samuel 3:35 and 2 Samuel 1:12Both show mourning: 2 Samuel 3:35 David mourns Abner, while 2 Samuel 1:12 mourns Saul and Jonathan.
- 2 Samuel 192 Samuel 3:16 and 2 Samuel 19:16Both mention Bahurim: 2 Samuel 3:16 describes Abner's wife weeping, while 2 Samuel 19:16 is Shimei meeting David.
- 2 Samuel 132 Samuel 3:2 and 2 Samuel 13:1Both mention David's sons: 2 Samuel 3:2 lists Amnon, while 2 Samuel 13:1 discusses Amnon's desire for Tamar.
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